Excuses, Excuses: Don't Let them Get In the Way of A Better Sex Life

ED (Erectile Dysfunction) is becoming increasingly common. There are literally tens of millions of men who are suffering or have suffered from one form of ED or another. The problem is that most men fail to undergo treatments for this curable condition simply because they are undergoing a mental denial process which impedes them from seeking out the appropriate medical remedies that are available to them. In the past few years, science has made great strides in the fight against ED

There are currently many ways to treat Erectile Dysfunction including drug therapy (e.g. Viagra, Cialis, Levitra, Penile Injections such as Caverject, special rub on creams such as those that contain nitroglycerin, etc.), vacuum constriction devices (pumps that aid the erection process), surgeries (implants, penile artery reconstructions, vein blockage, etc.), gene therapy (still undergoing clinical testing), and the focus of this article: Psychotherapy.

Overcoming the Denial Phase: ED Can Be Treated if You Allow It to Be

Improving your sex life requires action. The greatest barrier to action, which impedes most men from taking the appropriate steps to remedy E.D lies within their own minds. Denial and excuses are really the only thing most men need to overcome in order to begin their journey to a healthier and more enjoyable sex life. Once the excuses have stopped, remedial action can begin.

Overcoming ED Silence

When men first begin experiencing ED or difficulties in getting or maintaining an erection arise they immediately start to rationalize. Many excuses come to mind:

• "It's likely just a temporary condition",
• "it's probably only stress, I just need to relax a bit",
• "my medications are causing this",
• "maybe I'm just too old and this is normal",
• "my lover isn't doing much to help, she doesn't turn me on anymore, it's all her fault",
• "I've probably been drinking too much",
• "who needs sex anyway?",
• "nobody should ever find out this is happening to me!, I don't want anyone to know",
• "I really don't know where to find help", etc., etc…

Yes. A person's sexuality is truly complex and there are no easy solutions when it comes to ED Everyone is different and therefore different approaches should be taken to remedy erectile dysfunction in different patients. Perhaps you've secretly tried to find a solution but failed. That is no reason to give up. Embarrassment and silence may be the only thing obscuring the appropriate remedy. You really need to open up communication with your partner and then with your health care practitioner. ED is not a shameful condition. It is very common and can truly be remedied at any age.

Learning to Live With ED is not Necessary

Most urologists will tell you that the majority of their patients first visit them after living with ED for extended periods of time. Some people, amazingly enough, go on suffering from ED for many months or even years before they seek out medical attention. In extreme cases, people will ignore their ED condition for decades! Who knows how many men have spent their entire lives without an appropriate sex life. Sadly, ignorance is the only culprit.

Getting Help

Erectile Dysfunction is a complicated condition.

Solving it requires opening up to your sex partner and finding the appropriate help.

In order to determine the best remedy, it is important to first pin point the underlying reason behind your specific sexual condition. This can be accomplished with the help of a psychologist, a marriage counselor and your health care practitioner. Remember that psychological, as well as physical factors may influence your sex life.

Therefore, effective treatments for erectile dysfunction can be pharmaceutical remedies, counseling, the use of devices and possibly even corrective surgery.

If you open up to those that can help and be honest about your sexual condition, you can be on your way to overcoming ED and regaining the sex life you deserve.