Tips to Help you Open up About ED
Most men feel nervous when they are about to talk to their partner about ED, but it is important to understand that ED affects you both, so it's in the best interest of the relationship to resolve this issue together. Bringing up the issue can be much easier if you plan ahead. It is important to find the appropriate moment to let your partner in on your problem and let her know that you are willing to work with her to resolve the issue in an appropriate and loving manner.
Finding the Appropriate Moment
The first step is to try to think of a time where it would be best for both of you to just sit down and talk. Many experts and marriage counselors recommend this be done on a day where you both are free from work or other duties (most probably a weekend). Saturday or Sunday morning or early afternoon should do the trick for most couples.
People tend to be more tired and less receptive late at night and if both or one of you are not morning people then an early morning conversation may not be the most appropriate either; especially if you are rushing to prepare for work or to take the kids to school. However, it all depends on you as a couple; it's just important to find a calm and receptive moment where both of you are alone and can give each other your fullest attention.
Schedule a Conversation Beforehand
Tell your partner that you wish to speak to her about an important issue that will affect you both. Tell her that you have scheduled it for a more appropriate moment because you want her undivided attention. Some people like to schedule a walk in the park or along the beach. Others prefer to stay at home, but in that case make sure you agree that you won't allow any interruptions to interfere with your conversation. That means disconnecting the phone, turning off the T.V., radio, etc.
Plan Ahead
Determine beforehand what your intentions are and figure out what you want from your partner and what you are going to say. Are you going to ask her to help you find the best treatment for your specific ED condition? Do you want her to accompany you when you visit your urologist or other health care practitioner? Will she be part of the treatment (i.e. will she be responsible for administering the medicine or reminding you when and how you need to take it)? Do you want her to accompany you to a sex therapist or marriage counseling sessions? Etc.
Make a list of all the things you are going to tell her and another list with the things you would like her to help you with. Having your partner's support is extremely important when seeking out erectile dysfunction treatments.
The Moment Has Arrived
Though planning ahead will help you feel less anxiety, when the time comes to finally open up about ED, one cannot help but feel a little nervous. Try to take deep breaths and relax and just believe in yourself. Be open, honest, loving and sincere. ED can be remedied and with the help of your partner, you'll recover your love life in no time. |
